Many of us who were hurt in the past learned three rules: Don't talk, don't trust and don't feel. As children, we learned to keep secrets, to feel shame and to mistrust. These unwritten rules keep us stuck as adults and prevent others from getting close to us. Sometimes we give or love too much in atonement for our inability to let others close to us.
The only way out of this unhealthy cycle is to break the three rules by talking, trusting and feeling. We can talk with someone with whom we feel safe, a counselor or friend. We can talk to ourselves by writing our feelings in a journal or talking them out on a tape recorder. We can build trust by learning to trust ourselves first and by feeling our frozen feelings we have kept inside for so long. As we open up and let go, we begin to talk, trust and feel and are blessed with rich and meaningful relationships.
Breaking the three rules of don't talk, don't trust and don't feel by talking, trusting and feeling frees us of an unhealthy past and brings us rich and meaningful relationships.
Friday, April 18, 2008
ACHIEVING SERENITY
When things don't go our way, it naturally hurts and disappoints us. We may scream and rant and rave. We may even stomp our feet and throw things, like children who don't get their way.
Life runs more smoothly when we accept it as it is, rather than try to make it the way we want. We cannot change the world to fit our whims but we can change how we respond to disappointments by maturely accepting and making the best of them. Trying to change people and situations to meet our terms is time better spent accepting situations as they are.
Being courageous to change those parts of our lives that are changeable and accepting things as they are is the first step to serenity. We can accept the things we cannot change, ask for courage to change the things we can and for wisdom to know the difference between the two.
We can achieve serenity by accepting the things we cannot change, asking for courage to change the things we can and asking for wisdom to know the difference between the two.
HAVE A NICE DAY!!!
Life runs more smoothly when we accept it as it is, rather than try to make it the way we want. We cannot change the world to fit our whims but we can change how we respond to disappointments by maturely accepting and making the best of them. Trying to change people and situations to meet our terms is time better spent accepting situations as they are.
Being courageous to change those parts of our lives that are changeable and accepting things as they are is the first step to serenity. We can accept the things we cannot change, ask for courage to change the things we can and for wisdom to know the difference between the two.
We can achieve serenity by accepting the things we cannot change, asking for courage to change the things we can and asking for wisdom to know the difference between the two.
HAVE A NICE DAY!!!
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